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The offers and details on this page may have updated or changed since the time of publication. See our article on Business Insider for current information.Yana Iskayeva/Getty ImagesFor Love & Money is a column from Business Insider answering your relationship and money questions.This week, a reader wonders what to do after finding out their boyfriend has over $100,000 in debt.Our columnist suggests that the reader explore their three options: leave, wait, or proceed with conditions.Dear For Love & Money,I started dating someone six months ago. It's been fast, but we're both in our 30s, and I believe that when you know, you know. We plan to move in together this fall, and I'm excited; not only will I be able to hang out with my best friend around the clock, but we've also agreed that after this, the next step is an engagement and marriage.Then, a few days ago, we were having a conversation about all the important things couples should be on the same page about, when my boyfriend confessed that he has over $100,000 in debt.I don't know what to do. I've been financially responsible my entire adult life, and while I don't want to see debt as a dealbreaker, and I wouldn't break up with him over it, a part of me wants nothing to do with his debt. Also, I worry about what this says about his financial habits. I still want to marry him, though. What do I do?Sincerely,Want the guy, but not his debtFor Love & Money answers your relationship and money questions. Looking for advice on how your savings, debt, or another financial challenge is affecting your relationships? Submit your question in this Google form.Dear Want,We all love the honeymoon phase of a new relationship, with the endless fresh inside jokes, best behavior, and butterflies. Few things zap the glow as quickly as hard conversations about debt. Talking about money is difficult and awkward, which is why so many people avoid doing so for as long as possible, even after marriage.In this regard, you're ahead of many couples — bravo! The way the two of you chose to have this conversation despite its potential to ruin everything tells me you both have integrity and common sense. You've done your due diligence, but due diligence doesn't stop with the research phase. Now that you have this information, you must decide how to address it.In my eyes, there are three ways you can respond to your boyfriend's debt.First, you can break up. If debt is a dealbreaker for you, it just is, and that's OK.Based on your letter, it sounds like that's not an option you'd like to choose, though. Your emphasis on marriage is understandable; you're in your 30s, you've likely watched most of your friends get married, and you may feel it's time to tick the marriage box yourself. When an amazing man walks into your life who loves you and is on the same page as you about marriage, you may feel the box is as good as ticked. Dumping him now could feel like starting back at zero; understandably, you aren't eager to do that.But waiting for the right person is more important than finding someone and forcing the relationship to work. This doesn't mean your boyfriend isn't the right person or that you can't marry him down the road. But the goal of your relationship right now shouldn't be marriage; it should be making sure you know what you're getting into.And I want to stress that while $100,000 in debt is a significant and scary number, it's not necessarily irresponsible to marry someone who has it. It would be irresponsible, though, to learn this information, file it away as inconvenient, and continue toward marriage, assuming it will all work out. Based on what you said about wanting "nothing to do with his debt" and worrying what it means about his financial habits, though, that's not you. In other words, you know a red flag when you see one. And while a red flag means to stop,…

Située à quelques encâblures des côtes vénézuéliennes, l’histoire de cette île – qui fait partie du Royaume des Pays-Bas – est forcément liée à celle de Caracas. Depuis l’agression américaine, Curaçao se préparait à tirer profit du marché pétrolier. Un premier tanker est arrivé le 15 janvier.